Success with Positive Impact

Why so many coincidences occur in your life?

Coincidence by definition is: a sequence of events that although accidental seem to have been planned or arranged.

The dictionary states that a coincidence only exists if a specific event occurs by accident

Accident by definition is: an occurrence by chance or without intention, unplanned and unexpected.

Using these definitions; Can planning to achieve an outcome although not planning the exact steps you are going to take still be considered a coincidence?

By definition, the final outcome is not an accident as you have intended it, planned it or you expected it! If you continue to use this process successfully then by definition it cannot be a coincidence.

I have found that our actions and behaviours create paths in our life that we may or may not expect. It is important not to confuse the difference between them.

In my book Streets to Success, I share how I have been able to use this outline and actually create several series of so called 'coincidences' to create desired outcomes in my life

How to identify the difference between learnt responses, feelings and intuition?

As we feel emotions, we automatically project them onto the current situation, relevant or not. Our brain may have associated something minor that has no bearing on what is happening now.

You can remove the physical feelings of anxiety, stress, anger and sadness immediately no matter how dire it may seem?

We have all experienced pleasure and pain over our lifetime. We seem to be attracted to focusing on the painful things more than the pleasure. We recall past pain and project it on our current situation. This is the cause of most of our pain.

Your high self esteem and confidence are only a perception away!

Self esteem is based on self concept, we all want to be perfect, or at least as close as we can be. It is not possible to determine Perfection by comparing ourselves to others.

You are already the perfect you. Your shortfalls and past poor judgements are a part of what makes you the perfect you. Your uniqueness is perfection. There are no two of the same you, this is what makes you perfectly you. The perfect you will make perfect you mistakes and perfect poor judgements.

This is crucial to seeing your amazing uniqueness!

Once you compose yourself from your reaction to unpleasant experiences ask yourself what would it take for me to see a positive side to this situation?

What choices could I make to use this to my advantage?

• I could choose to be Angry
• I could choose to Retaliate
• I could choose to be Sad or Sulk
• I could choose to feel sorry for myself

For the Positive Impact of this if I cant change it and the damage is done.

• I could choose to be accept that sometimes bad things happen
• I could choose to believe that it happened for a reason. Potentially something worse might have happened if this didnt occur and it was only this occuring that in fact saved me from a worse fate.
• Alternatively, depending on an individuals beliefs, perhaps you could consider that something out there of a higher existence, be it God, The Universe, The Law of Attraction was looking after me.
• Perhaps even on some deeper level I sensed the worse event coming and I sabotaged myself for my greater good.
• How about Karma? Could I find peace with the situation by knowing my actions in the past whether intentional or not caused a similar fate to someone else and this is the balance of positive and negative equally out.
• I could choose to consider anyway possible to find a Silver Lining out of the situation whether it be financial or an opportunity to meet someone or use the situation to break the ice with a friend you have not been speaking with.
• I could choose to just ignore it and go about my day

Our emotions are predomonately triggered by external forces however our thoughts are from within. Allowing your emotions cloud your thoughts is allowing something else tell you how to live.

Is someone or something else going to have your interests at heart, will they be driving for your success? No!

If you want to succeed, if you want something, you have to be the driver. You cannot drive when someone or something else is in control.

Controlling your focus and not allowing your emotions control you use this and you will have motivatation and success

Take the random act of a vandal throwing a rock through your window!

You now have to pay an excess to an insurance company when you make a claim or you have to pay to fix the window either way this is not a nice feeling especially when you are struggling financially.

It is very natural to be angry or frustrated, feel hard done by or any other emotion that you feel. It is not fair but how long should you stay in this mind set?

What Are You Contributing?

• Will it help you fix the window?
• Will your friends and family enjoy your company whilst you are huffing and puffing about it?
• Snapping at your loved ones over the smallest things only creates further issues, sounds a little like momentum!
• When was the last time that you were angry or feeling sorry for yourself that you came up with a winning idea?

Some people have said that it is easier for me to see the positive side to life because I have done it tough. I say that regardless of the past it is easy for anyone to look at life in either a positive or a negative way, each perception have equal dangers. Reflecting on or reliving an unhappy past is dangerous as it can remanifest in your life today without you even realizing it. With the media of today sharing the tragedies of the world it is much easier for those who have not experienced harsh times to fear them to the point where they focus on the "what ifs of life" which then poses the exact same threat of creating them of those who reflect on and relive. There is no advantage or disadvantage either way, we are equal today and in the now whereever we currently are as it can change overnight. It comes down to awareness of the creating power we all have and the choice to control it to your advantage.

How can we compare without knowing how something feels or what each persons tolerence is?

I believe I would cope better sleeping outside today then someone who has not had to do it before

People I speak with about my childhood, picture living in drain as being the worst thing of all. What they do not seem to realize immediately, is the kid sleeping in the drain is not comparing the drain to a nice warm bed. He or she is comparing the drain to the reality of what their life was like at home.

Were they verbally, physically, emotionally or sexually abused on a daily basis?

Maslow provided a hierachy of needs. Displayed below. This is based on an average person. Think of the conflict a child must go through who has either been kicked out of home or who has chosen to leave.

1. Fulfillment and Self-Actualization Need
2. The Deepest Understanding of Life
3. Aesthetic Need
4. The need for Order and Symmetry
5. Cognitive Needs
6. Need to know and Understand
7. Psychological Safety Need
8. Self-esteem, reputation, status
9. Social Need
10. Interaction with People, belonging, affection, love
11. Security need
12. Physical Safety, freedom from attack
13. Physiological needs
14. Breathing, Thirst, Hunger, Sleep, Sex

I dont see the warm bed on the list. Maslows theory rated our basic fundamental needs through from phyical life requirements through to absolute fulfillment and self actualization which is somewhere between spiritual and emotional wholeness.

My emotions do not feel different to everyone elses, I have never felt someone elses before, have you?

Everyone has done it tough sometime

A child feels as much emotional pain not getting an icecream as they do not know any different. It comes down to how much focus and energy we put into the situation

If only it was so simple

To know what we do Not Have then we would only need to be thankful for what we do have

It is that simple!

It is the power of choice and knowledge!

The knowledge and proof is in my book Streets to Success which is available at Amazon.com via the link.

Are you willing to make the choice to read it?

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I do not believe that the Law of Attraction as others explain it, is solely responsible for attracting the positive and the negative situations in our lives. I believe they are and always will be there. Some people simply make the choice to make the best of a bad situation.

I used the rock scenario as it happened at my business as I was writing Streets to Success. I was in a very positive mind set and even though my staff at the time were suggesting I should be angry I just could not.

I had an idea fall in my lap, everyone I know dislikes telemarketing calls. My business is a call center so I decided to frame the rock with a small caption explaining the story. The reponse was phenomenal, I sold the $5 frame, the $0 rock and story for $234. My insurance excess was only $100.

From a situation that only a few years ago, would have ruined my week, generated negative momentum and cost me $100 along with a stomach full of knots, I had found Lifes Positive Impact. I made money, had a laugh and demonstrated to 40 employees why I am happy all of the time.

I would never have seen the possibility of what I could do if I alowed my emotions to drive my behaviour. I do not see how I attracted the good or the bad in this situation, both were always there. I simply had to remain open to it.

There are many opinions on the validity of the Law of Attraction and I wont discount any of them. I prefer to take the simple approach and the same fundamentals apply. I choose to view the world from my eyes and if I am advantaged by this attraction then I will accept it to, it does not matter how you get somewhere, just that you do!

The sad thing is that the vandal is projecting their life on others because they do not want to be unhappy alone

Think of something positive for them. Wishing harm does nothing but allow you to focus on negativity which causes more negative emotions for yourself.

When we remain positive, we remain connected to our environment and allow creativity. The more ideas that you create, the more momentum you will create - the first idea may not be suitable, as a by-product of focus, ideas will continue to flow until you do find one that is suitable.

When we are focusing on the negative, ideas or opportunities will present themselves however we will turn them away due to self doubt which is closely related to negativity. We are not open to the possibilities of creation.